"TILL DEATH DO US APART"

Dear Dairy

It has been a while since I shared my inner most thoughts with you. Work life has been diminishing my social life. I must admit, I have been thinking a lot about marriage recently.*BBM Confused face** I have become more aware of married couples, especially young couples lately. Is it because I have been watching a lot of marriage shows on TBS as of late? Ironically I spotted the cutest black couple today at union station while having lunch with my co-worker. Honesty, I could not keep my eyes off them, especially the way they were so cosy together in public.  My eyes were fixed like a camera, searching for the big thing on the young lady’s finger to validate my thoughts. YEAP! There is was the nice big platinum ring on her beautiful long finger.  I thought to myself, Gosh I can’t wait till that big day comes.  Walk down the aisle in a traditional dress and get the ring on my finger than I will anxiously say the five most beautiful words; “Till death do us apart”. Two seconds later after daydreaming, guess who called me?? ROGERS COMMUNICTIONS calling to remind me about my $300 bill. I wanted to take a walk to Lake Ontario and submerge in the water and never come out again. If I only knew what I was signing up for, I would have thought three hundred times before signing up for this lethal contract.

Honestly I have no idea why my mind has been on the idea of marriage these days.

Marriage in my own perspective is like signing up for a new contract with a cell phone company. Marriage is a contract between a man and wife however there are fine prints in the contracts that some individuals disregard or misinterpret before signing up. Prior to signing up for my Rogers' contract, I was mesmerized by the “wonderful” features that came along with blackberry. It sounded perfect and I wanted every bit of it to spice my life. I was thrilled to posses my new berry in the attractive box in my hands. I couldn’t wait to use the camera or the blackberry messenger. My 50 dollar bb plan was just right; exactly what I need for my budget. I was ready to sign my life way for my attractive bb phone because everything seemed faultless. And I did. I signed 3 years of my life to Rogers without reading the “gorgeous fine prints”. I was clueless as to how much headaches and stress I was going to attain from this contract. If I discontinue my service and break my contract, I face a penalty. If I decide to keep my services, I will be paying my dues for signing up with Rogers. On the other hand, if I read the fine prints before signing up for the contract, than I had less surprises. Nevertheless not everything is documented in a marriage contract because people change from time to time but as long as one understands the contract, one will acquire more knowledge to deal with issues in marriage. The lesson learned for me: marriage is such a wonderful thing; however I have to learn, explore and comprehend all the hidden prints in a marriage contracts before signing my life away.

P.S. Congratulations to all marriage couples that have made it pass the 10 years mark.  Hope God will continue to bless you and fill your cup with life!

**Express and Reflect on your World**


Sincerely,

Prissy Birago

MR.RIGHT'S RESUME ;)

Mr.Right

1 Perfectman Street

Righttown, Dreamworld

P1M 1R1

Phone: 1(123)

Email: perfectman4you@mrright.com

Objective:

Dynamic person with only few long term relationships. Never been married and looking for a compatible woman to spend the rest of my life. I am the kind of man that will do anything in my power to make my woman happy. I have a high performance in assisting the needs of my woman. I have excellent communication skills and listening skills. I tend to overcome any challenging obstacles that I may encounter in my life. Consistently romantic anytime though out my relationships and not on special occasions such as Valentine’s Day. I am also God fearing and prayerful person and not egocentric. I like to give my attention to one woman and one woman alone. VERY FAITHFUL and LOYAL.  Willing to relocate.   

Areas of Expertise include:

·         Supporting                     Educated                                Attractive

·         Loving                             Intellectual                              Comforting

·         Kind                                Romantic                                Self-motivated

·         Caring                            Sincere                                   Sociable

·         Reliable                          Well dressed                         Mature

·         Loyalty                            Faithful                                    Easygoing

·         Sense of humor             Open Minded                         Active listening

·         Intelligent                        Helpful                                     Trustworthy

·         Ambitious

Professional Experience

20XX – Present              MrRight’s Business                         Righttown, Dreamworld

Business owner

20XX-20XX                      ForPerfectman Inc                         Righttown, Dreamworld

Executive Manger

Education and training

2000-20XX                    University of Perfection                    Righttown, Dreamworld

Degree in Perfection and Excellence

Certificate in faithfulness

Hobbies

Reading, travelling and dinning

Reference upon request

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Above is Mr. Right’s resume, which consists of most of the qualities I expect in a man. Although I have all these attributes in mind, it does not imply that my future husband will depict all these virtues. It is possible to pray to God to grant us our heart desires however I don’t believe that he will provide us with the perfect man. I believe that he will present an important person that is close to perfection to test our ability to compromise.

I attended “The girl with a mess or the girl with the message” program this past weekend at my church. The topic of the program was “Mr Right or Mr Right now” and during the discussions, there were some interesting concerns and questions that most of the ladies inquired about. One of the important question that was raised was, how do we know Mr Right and is there more than one Mr Right for you??  

I often question myself, if there is really a Mr Right or should I say Mr Perfect for every woman??

Just for the sake of argument, I will state that there is the perfect man for every woman. This denotes that every woman would have Mr Right for themselves and would not have to be concern about their man not being faithful. And since every woman has their perfect match no woman will have the desire to pursue someone’s man because they would be satisfy with what they have.

Hmmm wouldn’t that be golden?? Let’s face it, everyone hates cheaters.

Let me stop here for a moment to re-evaluate what I just said. SO...there is a perfect man for every woman, which means women are more likely to capture Mr Right that would fit their criteria.

WAIT  A MIN !!!!

How is there a perfect man for every woman when there are more women than men in this world? The ratio between men and women is 1 to 6 which can be interpreted as; for every man there are six women for them.This means that six women would be sharing one perfect man. Hmmm isn’t this interesting? 

Personally I don’t believe in the idea of a perfect man. Because even if a man is faithful, they may lack some attributes in some areas such as communication and reliability. I believe in the idea of comprising and having an open mind in relationships. However every woman has their own opinions of what makes up a perfect man. I have my own list of the attribute that makes up Mr Right in my world but does that mean that I would find the perfect man that would meet my requirement?? No!! 

We should evaluate our desires and identify if our desires are...

Must have, need to have or should have

Because if you are looking for 10 good qualities in your man but only attain 7 out of the 10 attributes, would that make him less of a man for you or Would you comprise to make your relationship work? I mean after all, 7 out of 10 is not bad. Right??!!!

Or 

Do you feel like you will be settling down for less because you don’t like the idea of compromising??  

Think about it!!

**Express and Reflect on your World** 

Sincerely 

Prissy Birago

POSITIVITY PAYS OFF !!!

I am super happy. I am so happy I can’t keep it to myself. God has been so good to me, it’s unexplainable. I have come such a long way in life and it’s all because I have been positive and believed that God loves me.

I have been more positive than ever before.

I have been taking more risk than ever been before.

I see more light than ever before.

I see more possibilities and potentials than ever before.

 All because I am more optimistic about life and I walk with faith that nothing is impossible for God.

I admit. I have not always been optimistic or fearless in life. My attitude reflected that. Few years ago, the way I talked, behaved or even thought about life was in a negative manner. It took me years to come to the realization that negativity and the feeling of fear are the devil’s antics to destroy people’s destiny. And feeling fearful and pessimistic can only lead to disappointment and failure in life.  

Why would one allow him or her to be consumed with fear and negativity??  

It’s sad to say that I was there at some point in my life; Carrying the fear and negativity in my heart and mind and not allowing myself to progress in life. Because I was constantly thinking negative about myself, I permitted pessimism to manifest my position in life. Consequently, I created a false persona that was acceptable to people. From my outer shell, I appeared as an individual with a strong personality but in reality, I was weak and vulnerable inside.

Now I have unlearned to learn; I have become extremely conscious about my surroundings.

To my understanding, when one is surrounded with fear, they are afraid to move forward in life. They persistently anticipate negativity rather than positive outcome in their life. As a result, they block God’s love to get to their heart. 

When we are stuck in the dark negative world, it only requires the unconditional love from God to grant us with a brighter world. All we have to do is to open our hearts to accept the love of God.

Are we where we are suppose to be in life?? NO!!

Where we are in life presently is not our ordained destiny. God has plans for us to be in a better place; where we are constantly progressing in life and are surrounded with positive people.

Do you know that the people in our life determine our future??

 The people we associate ourselves with determine who we become in the future. When we have friends that are always negative and fearful in life, this means that we are more likely to assimilate to their personality.

I truly believe that friends have a major influence in our life.  

On the other hand, not only friends but our partners we choose to be with can also have an impact on our life in a positive or negative way. Some people we associate ourselves with attain evil spirit that we are unable to detect physically. Their purpose of invading our life is to devalue our potentials to achieve. During this episode we may encounter disappointments after disappointments in our life which may cause low confidence. We may even feel like we are unable to achieve better things, thus we settle down for what you have or what we can get.

COME ONNN!!!

We all know that, there is always something better out there for us. That’s what I call the “definition of positivity.”

So it is very crucial for us to choose wisely who we allow in our lives.

For some time now, my attitude has changed; my approach to life is more positive. I have found love in God and there is nothing more I can ask for. The more positive I think about life, the more God makes impossible things possible.

In recent times, I have been seeking the face of the Lord and I have observed some major transformation in my life.  I have been taking more risk in life because I have been walking with confidence.  I took a risk this week and I am happy to say it paid off. I remained optimistic even when I thought there was little or no hope. I have been extremely happy about the outcome since yesterday. This is definitely a major transformation and the beginning of amazing miracles in my life. God really answers prayers as long as we remain positive about what we are seeking for.

Positivity is fruitfulness!

Whottt  Whott!!

GOD IS GOOD

**Express and Reflect on your World**


Sincerely,

Prissy Birago

The UnaccountableThings

 

Dear Diary,

My aim for this week is to thank God for the good things in my life and to think about all the impossibilities he made possible for me.

I have been doing a lot of asking and less thanking.

I have been clueless in my mind, soul and body.

I profess...God needs to be glorified for every breath that I take even if I feel like nothing has been done for me. I should feel blessed knowing that I have the ability to wake up every morning.

I started to meditate; I realized that God has done many things for me that I never acknowledged prior to my reflection.

My mind has been in a different dimension for the past three days while reflecting on my life. 

I have tuned out what the world have to say.

Subsequently, I refused to believe that there will be a snow storm on February 2^nd 2011.  At 12:05am, I was driving, happily singing “I will praise you Lord with every breath I take, I will praise you Lord this promise I make, till eternity ends and starts all over again even then I will praise you Lord”. 

This was an intensive/emotional five minute session of worship while driving. And I felt wonderful.

 

In a split of seconds, I came to the realization that this famous snow storm of 2011, that world has been nattering about has already started.  I said to myself, “Is this really happening?? A Snow storm on the second day of Black history month?? This must be a conspiracy!!”

I started to laugh; I felt no ounce of sorrow or anguish.  Dissimilar to what the slaves went through over four hundred years ago. The slave era was all a conspiracy but not this snow storm. 

Ironically, I have been given the chance to enslave myself to reach to the highest level. .Yes I said it, enslave myself. With this prospect, I have control over my destiny, unlike the enslaved men and women that paved the way for us. I have opportunity to work, work, work on my own terms until I can’t work no more. 

No human beings can create a snowstorm except for God and only God. He’s the only one that controls the weather. Why should I be mad or sad? 

This is the only day I can stay in my room, and not think about anything else I have to get done. I will take this as a holiday to embrace my life and my culture and express my appreciation to God.

So.... Here I am, restless and happy at 7 am on a Wednesday morning writing and expressing my gratitude. It truly feels wonderful to know how much more I appreciate the littlest things in my life.

**Express and Reflect on your World**

Sincerely

Prissy Carter

A Precious Gift from God

Spontaneously   Me!!! 

I walked into a Barber shop on Saturday afternoon, feeling boldly and confident about myself. I was ready for a new look.

So I decided to cut off my Mohawk I had for two and a half years with no fear or regret. I was not afraid about my new appearance or what people have to say about it.

I took the risk and I feel great. 

 I don’t need my hair to feel beautiful.

 I just need to believe in myself that I am beautiful and Prissy is a valuable gift to the world

I feel confident

 I feel liberated.

I feel awesome

I feel vibrant

I feel like a new being.

 I feel like taking more risk

This is the new me, boldly and without fear!

I am delightful to say, I’m currently fulfilling one of the things I wrote down on “MY Possession” for 2011; to read more and write more like how I use to. I’m presently reading “The Confident Woman” by Joyce Meyer and “Sisters and Lovers” by Connie Briscoe.  

And ...I LOVE IT!!!

I have decided to read at least one chapter of “The Confident Woman” every day for 17 days, to be more self-conscious about myself and to be aware of my potentials in life.  In the introduction of “The Confident Woman”, Meyer said “Women are a precious gift from God to the World. We are creative, sensitive, compassionate, intelligent, talented and according to the Bible, equal to men”.   YES WE ARE!!! Reading this statement automatically inspired me to take more risks in life and believing that anything is possible.

Therefore, I speak with the authority of God that there will be no “glass ceiling” in my world.

Women have come a long way in terms of equality and attaining a respectable place in society.  We have the chance to go places where we never had the chance to go before.

So why are we not taking the risk to achieve the opportunities that are available for us?  

Many individuals are afraid to take risk because they feel like they do not have the potential to do so.  

I have the King in me! Believe... You have the king in you too!

Let’s all take the risk to get on a higher Plainfield.

Life is all about taking risk and learning from our mistakes.

I have vowed to myself to take more risk and walk into doors I’ve never walked in before.

And if I fall, I shall get up and try again until I make it.

I will hold my head high and confidently say, I am a precious gift from God

**Express and Reflect on your World**

Sincerely

Prissy Carter