"TILL DEATH DO US APART"

Dear Dairy

It has been a while since I shared my inner most thoughts with you. Work life has been diminishing my social life. I must admit, I have been thinking a lot about marriage recently.*BBM Confused face** I have become more aware of married couples, especially young couples lately. Is it because I have been watching a lot of marriage shows on TBS as of late? Ironically I spotted the cutest black couple today at union station while having lunch with my co-worker. Honesty, I could not keep my eyes off them, especially the way they were so cosy together in public.  My eyes were fixed like a camera, searching for the big thing on the young lady’s finger to validate my thoughts. YEAP! There is was the nice big platinum ring on her beautiful long finger.  I thought to myself, Gosh I can’t wait till that big day comes.  Walk down the aisle in a traditional dress and get the ring on my finger than I will anxiously say the five most beautiful words; “Till death do us apart”. Two seconds later after daydreaming, guess who called me?? ROGERS COMMUNICTIONS calling to remind me about my $300 bill. I wanted to take a walk to Lake Ontario and submerge in the water and never come out again. If I only knew what I was signing up for, I would have thought three hundred times before signing up for this lethal contract.

Honestly I have no idea why my mind has been on the idea of marriage these days.

Marriage in my own perspective is like signing up for a new contract with a cell phone company. Marriage is a contract between a man and wife however there are fine prints in the contracts that some individuals disregard or misinterpret before signing up. Prior to signing up for my Rogers' contract, I was mesmerized by the “wonderful” features that came along with blackberry. It sounded perfect and I wanted every bit of it to spice my life. I was thrilled to posses my new berry in the attractive box in my hands. I couldn’t wait to use the camera or the blackberry messenger. My 50 dollar bb plan was just right; exactly what I need for my budget. I was ready to sign my life way for my attractive bb phone because everything seemed faultless. And I did. I signed 3 years of my life to Rogers without reading the “gorgeous fine prints”. I was clueless as to how much headaches and stress I was going to attain from this contract. If I discontinue my service and break my contract, I face a penalty. If I decide to keep my services, I will be paying my dues for signing up with Rogers. On the other hand, if I read the fine prints before signing up for the contract, than I had less surprises. Nevertheless not everything is documented in a marriage contract because people change from time to time but as long as one understands the contract, one will acquire more knowledge to deal with issues in marriage. The lesson learned for me: marriage is such a wonderful thing; however I have to learn, explore and comprehend all the hidden prints in a marriage contracts before signing my life away.

P.S. Congratulations to all marriage couples that have made it pass the 10 years mark.  Hope God will continue to bless you and fill your cup with life!

**Express and Reflect on your World**


Sincerely,

Prissy Birago

MR.RIGHT'S RESUME ;)

Mr.Right

1 Perfectman Street

Righttown, Dreamworld

P1M 1R1

Phone: 1(123)

Email: perfectman4you@mrright.com

Objective:

Dynamic person with only few long term relationships. Never been married and looking for a compatible woman to spend the rest of my life. I am the kind of man that will do anything in my power to make my woman happy. I have a high performance in assisting the needs of my woman. I have excellent communication skills and listening skills. I tend to overcome any challenging obstacles that I may encounter in my life. Consistently romantic anytime though out my relationships and not on special occasions such as Valentine’s Day. I am also God fearing and prayerful person and not egocentric. I like to give my attention to one woman and one woman alone. VERY FAITHFUL and LOYAL.  Willing to relocate.   

Areas of Expertise include:

·         Supporting                     Educated                                Attractive

·         Loving                             Intellectual                              Comforting

·         Kind                                Romantic                                Self-motivated

·         Caring                            Sincere                                   Sociable

·         Reliable                          Well dressed                         Mature

·         Loyalty                            Faithful                                    Easygoing

·         Sense of humor             Open Minded                         Active listening

·         Intelligent                        Helpful                                     Trustworthy

·         Ambitious

Professional Experience

20XX – Present              MrRight’s Business                         Righttown, Dreamworld

Business owner

20XX-20XX                      ForPerfectman Inc                         Righttown, Dreamworld

Executive Manger

Education and training

2000-20XX                    University of Perfection                    Righttown, Dreamworld

Degree in Perfection and Excellence

Certificate in faithfulness

Hobbies

Reading, travelling and dinning

Reference upon request

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Above is Mr. Right’s resume, which consists of most of the qualities I expect in a man. Although I have all these attributes in mind, it does not imply that my future husband will depict all these virtues. It is possible to pray to God to grant us our heart desires however I don’t believe that he will provide us with the perfect man. I believe that he will present an important person that is close to perfection to test our ability to compromise.

I attended “The girl with a mess or the girl with the message” program this past weekend at my church. The topic of the program was “Mr Right or Mr Right now” and during the discussions, there were some interesting concerns and questions that most of the ladies inquired about. One of the important question that was raised was, how do we know Mr Right and is there more than one Mr Right for you??  

I often question myself, if there is really a Mr Right or should I say Mr Perfect for every woman??

Just for the sake of argument, I will state that there is the perfect man for every woman. This denotes that every woman would have Mr Right for themselves and would not have to be concern about their man not being faithful. And since every woman has their perfect match no woman will have the desire to pursue someone’s man because they would be satisfy with what they have.

Hmmm wouldn’t that be golden?? Let’s face it, everyone hates cheaters.

Let me stop here for a moment to re-evaluate what I just said. SO...there is a perfect man for every woman, which means women are more likely to capture Mr Right that would fit their criteria.

WAIT  A MIN !!!!

How is there a perfect man for every woman when there are more women than men in this world? The ratio between men and women is 1 to 6 which can be interpreted as; for every man there are six women for them.This means that six women would be sharing one perfect man. Hmmm isn’t this interesting? 

Personally I don’t believe in the idea of a perfect man. Because even if a man is faithful, they may lack some attributes in some areas such as communication and reliability. I believe in the idea of comprising and having an open mind in relationships. However every woman has their own opinions of what makes up a perfect man. I have my own list of the attribute that makes up Mr Right in my world but does that mean that I would find the perfect man that would meet my requirement?? No!! 

We should evaluate our desires and identify if our desires are...

Must have, need to have or should have

Because if you are looking for 10 good qualities in your man but only attain 7 out of the 10 attributes, would that make him less of a man for you or Would you comprise to make your relationship work? I mean after all, 7 out of 10 is not bad. Right??!!!

Or 

Do you feel like you will be settling down for less because you don’t like the idea of compromising??  

Think about it!!

**Express and Reflect on your World** 

Sincerely 

Prissy Birago