SELF ACTUALIZATION AND INDEPENDENCE

About 2 months ago, I wrote an article called “Till death do us apart”... This article was about Marriage and Relationships and the importance of knowing who we choose to spend our lives with. I have decided to repost one reader’s comment on the article and my response to the comment. Please feel free to read the comment and let me know your perspective on this topic as well...

Anonymous said... 

This is the year when most of us (those 86ers) turn 25. I am also seeing more and more friends starting to tie the knot, and get engaged. I loved the fact that you mentioned the fine print, I am finding that some folks I know are merely doing these things simply to say "am doing it" - despite ill treatment from there significant others? What do you think about those that get engaged/married despite mistreatment from a spouse? Simply because they are trying to stay enroute with "the plan" that all others are adhering to, that is to 1) finish university 2) get married 3) have kids? what about self actualization, independence etc.. Don't get me wrong, I strongly believe in accomplishing great things, I have completed my Bachelors and Masters before hitting 25, as well as maintaining a relationship, however, I think that such a commitment should be made with a person that truly makes you feel special, and for the right reasons, and not merely as a fashion statement. 

Me …

I think many individuals are too comfortable in their relationships, even when they know it's unhealthy. Many young women are scared to end their relationships because they worry too much of what others are going to say about them. Yes, it understandable if you're in a relationship for long but some individuals want to please everyone, so they would stick with the plan and "do it" despite ill treatment from their partners. There are many factors that may also plays into this . ex// insecurities.

Moreover, I do believe that self actualization and independence is vital. Realizing your potentials and capabilities in life is significant, but sometimes some individuals may achieve self actualization through their significant others. For example, there are some boyfriends/husbands that encourage and support their girlfriends/wives to reach their full capabilities.

I think self actualization goes hand in hand with Independence

However, how long is a woman going to obtain the "independence" status for ? Don't get me wrong, we all say we are independent and strong women because we work, graduated, make our own money and feel like we don't need anyone to satisfy us... but there are times we may need someone by our side just to comfort, encourage , enhance our self esteem and boost self-awearness

So, if we do find someone that support us in everything we do, than it will make us feel special for the right reasons.

**Express and Reflect on your World**

Sincerely,

Prissy Birago

48HRS BEFORE JUDGMENT DAY

 

Dear Blog

Yahhh Vegas !!!. That’s another story for another day. Anyways, I and my girlfriends decided to take a walk on the strip of Las Vegas. While walking, we saw a young man in his early twenties, preaching about the judgment day. Suddenly, a young irate woman, appeared from an unidentified planet and snatched the microphone from the preacher’s hand, shouting, "There is no judgment day". At the moment, I found it very amusing because she was intoxicated and acting a fool out of herself. Now, reflecting back on the incident makes me wonder about the end of time prediction by Harold Camping. According to Harold Camping, Saturday, May 21st 2011 was “rapture and judgment” day. And off course his theory was invalid.  But what if his prediction actually occurred???? Then what???

As a believer, I know that nobody acquires the knowledge or ability to identify the day and hour of judgment day. In retrospective, many of us thought the prediction was false and never once believed it. But there were some followers that were convinced that the prediction was legitimate. Some followers gave away their life time possessions because they believed in  Camping’s judgment day ideology.

Nobody knows when judgment day would come but, when if it does, there would be no such thing as discrimination.

Swagger or no swagger, we'll be judged!
Rich or no rich, we'll be judged!

Short or no short, we’ll be judged!

Dead or no dead, we’ll be judged!

Everyone would face judgment from God.

But…Wouldn’t it be beautiful if we knew at least 48hours in advance before Judgment day?

I think it would be great!

What if the world was really coming to an end on May 21^st 2011? Many of us heard about the prediction weeks and days before.

What will I do in the last 48hrs before judgment day?


7 things I would do in 48hrs before judgment day
1) I would run on the streets of Toronto half naked shouting and
screaming, “Rapture is coming, rapture is coming!!!”

Ok there! I’m not that crazy.  I would actually call all my family and friends, including my enemies give them big hug, kisses and profess my love for them.

 2) I would eat all the best food in the world. I would go to The Keg, pick up my favorite meal -Thai grill chicken with virgin Miami-Vice…hmm yummy. I would also pay a visit to Starbucks coffee and order 48 strawberry frapiccino with wipe cream on top for every hour left. In addition, I would order banana cheese cake as my dessert.  I would eat till I can't eat no more because this is no time for weight watchers scheme. After all God will not be watching weight at judgment day. Right!?

3) I would sell my entire asset; everything including my crappy car and
my inheritance. I would go on the streets and homeless shelters and give half of
my money to the poor. I’m not saying I don't give to the needy but I
would give beyond my abilities.

4) I would go to the Summerhill spa , get a pedicure, manicure and wax. Get a
professional hair dresser to do my hair. Order one of Alexander Mcqueen best dresses and one Christian Louboutin “Very Richie” shoes.

I KNOW WHAT YOU’RE THINKING. STOP JUDGING ME IN YOUR MIND

God said we should look our best when we going to his house :)

6) Call my potential husband and tell him to marry me right there and
then because there is no time to waste.

7) Nobody is perfect and I am not perfect, so I would spend my last hours at church waiting for the face of God. I would be confessing my sins, praying, worshiping and praising his name.

But I do not want you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning those who have fallen asleep, lest you sorrow as others who have no hope....  For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of of an archangel, and with the trumpet of God.  And the dead in Christ will rise first.  Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air.  And thus we shall always be with the Lord.

"Therefore, comfort one another with these words" I Thessalonians 4:13-18

**Food for thoughts **

**Express and Reflect on your World** 

Sincerely,

Prissy Birago

THE CHANGES THAT MAKES ME TICK

Dear Blog,

I promise to share more great insights with you at least once a week. I'm Sorry for mistreating you but I am glad to let you know I have been keeping up with some of the things I listed on my possessions for 2011.I have been keeping myself very busy and also in the process of launching a major project with my partners. To be frank, I am proud of the things I have accomplished so far. I need to pat myself on the back for keeping  things up. I told my self this year would be my year for positive change. And indeed I feel the change has begun already.

Yes, New Prisssyyyy in the house. Woot Woot!!

The sweet tingling feeling of change is unstoppable.

                                                                        

So I am trying to justify why i am so joyful today

Uhmm, let me guess. I think am happy because of the Victoria long weekend that's coming up


Hmmm or maybe it because of my two spontaneous trips creeping up on me.

Anyways, who care what's making me delightful. Either way I’m happy. 

I was Pregnant with joy today. I was actually nice to everyone at work today, including my co-workers and the clients .So... One of my co-worker said I looked like a banana because I have been wearing yellow jacket for the past three day.

Silly, right?

Prissy banana??

Hell noo!!

I'm Prissy sunshine.

Shining through out the day.

Wow talk about change. Trust me, this change is good because it ticks me in the right places.

Hence, these are 3 little changes that made me tick this week :)

1) Every two weeks, I  rotate between inspirational books and fictional novels. This week, I decided to reread "Medea's uninhibited commentaries on love and life” by Tyler Perry .Trust me this book has been making me laugh to myself like crazy Medea.

2) For the past 3 months I have been wearing my nails natural and plain with no nail polish. But this week I painted my natural nails with fuchsia pink polish. Something fun and different. This is a big change for me, because I’ve been wearing fake nails for a while.

3)  As you may already know, I can never stop cutting my hair bald. It in my blood to wear short hair. However, I decided to wear long hair for a change. My choice of hair  this week is curly jerry curls (no stress to fix it).

I know these changes are not big changes but they are sufficient enough  for me to feel different. Little by little is all it takes for a major change in my life.

Dr. Dennis O'Grady, Once said "Change has a bad reputation in our society. But it isn't all bad — not by any means. In fact, change is necessary in life — to keep us moving ... to keep us growing ... to keep us interested. ... Imagine life without change. It would be static and boring and dull."

**Express and Reflect on your World** 

Sincerely,

Prissy Birago

NO REGRETS

“I have learned that not everything you want in life is necessary good for you. Some people you meet in life entail evil spirit that contributes to your failures in life. It’s not a matter of yourself but it’s a matter of who you associate yourself with. I have learned to acclimatize myself in positive surroundings rather than negative surroundings because my association determines who I become in the future. Out with the old; in with the new. Yes Failure is not my portion” - by  Priscilla Birago

So...

The above has been my personal mission statement for the past year. I am constantly referring to this statement in my note pad to empower and motivate myself to work towards my goals in life.

 This past week has been my reflection and meditation week; reflecting on the amazing works of God in my life. I am honestly losing counts of the blessings God has restored in my life. Moreover, I am pleased and happy at the direction things have been moving for me. I feel some sort of victory and peace within my heart because I know that I have won the race already.

During my reflection period, I also thought about the unpleasant things I engaged in the past. The foolish things I did when I was younger(not to say I'm old now ) but the wrong people I have associated myself with and the people I permitted to influence my thoughts and lifestyle. The people I once thought were part of my survival tool kit in this complex world, has surprisingly diminished.

From my perspective, I believe God works in seasons. Every season is a harvest time, where God provides me with new plans in my life.  And it’s up to me how I will execute the plans and yield tremendous results.

There are some seasons I allowed  certain individuals in  my  life that I thought I could not survive or succeed  without. Ironically, the moment the person is out of my life, I can see my self still standing firm, firmer than before. I can suddenly survive and strive for better resources.  I become stronger and stronger to tackle my next challenge.

 I have learned not to dwell on irrational things, especially things that will distract me from serving my soul purpose in life because if certain individuals were relevant in my world, God would definitely permit/plant them in my life forever. I believe their moment was just a brief session; to fulfill certain plans God had for me. Their assignment was temporarily, to lead me into the next level in life.

It's inevitable that I can not avoid thinking about certain things I've done in the past and certain people I associated myself with. But I know my God is a forgiving and loving God. He will not lead me into the wilderness without his guidance and grace. SO...I write with boldness and confidence that I have no regrets because there is a reason for every season. And I believe that everything works together in the end for the good. Failure is not my portion because God is on my side.

There is no need to regret my past life because life goes on beyond my imagination

**Express and Reflect on your World** 

Sincerely,

Prissy Birago

The Fairytale Wedding

Reports say that royal wedding cost the taxpayers 163 million dollars and the total royal wedding cost was about 50 billion dollars. Wow... I am absolutely in shock. 50billion dollars can possibly eliminate 100% poverty in Africa. God have mercy on us!

Presently, I am proclaiming celebration because I can obtain peace and mind again. It finally over! The wedding of the century is finally over! For the past four months, every television station had special shows pertaining to the royal wedding. As if I am gaining any potential benefit from this event. 

People need a reality check. We need to realize that this wedding was not going to improve any aspects of our life but rather creating more wealth for the royal family.

 I strongly believe that the media over sensationalize unworthy fixations that do not improve our economy but rather make it worse. Consequently, it creates a bigger gap between upper class and the lower class society. This is a representation of supremacy, where by the rich uses their power to dominate, construct and mend the world to their preference. 

We have to face the fact, we are giving more credits to people that do not deserve it. Our taxpaying money is making the rich, richer and the poor, poorer. The media only pays attention to the upper class society and destroys the lower class society.  Ask yourself how many people would even hear or know about your wedding. You will be honoured to have two minutes of your wedding previewed on your local television station. The media would rather showcase statistics of black single parents or gangbangers that are murdered or in jail. It sad to say, but we are all just a number in this world. 

I am still in disbelief at the amount of people that went out camping out for the royal wedding; wasting their precious time and their hard working money for the "wedding of the century." Since the wedding is over, we can all come back to reality. In other words, working more hours to earn the money lost, which means paying more taxes to advance prosperity within upper class society.

 I pray for every African/black person that used their time and money to support the royal wedding. I believe they have been manipulated through the media to enslave themselves in the cold for many hours to make the royal family look more important them. They enslaved our people, stolen our gold, diamonds and many significant resources to make their country
rich. And here you are, standing behind a gated road/park, waving your flag like they would have noticed you.

If we had all the resources in Africa and was never taking away from us, do you think our family would move abroad for this so called "better life"? We are treating them like God, worshiping and praising them every day of our life. We should invest our time and money to praise/worship God and solving bigger problems in this world.

#Peace

**Express and Reflect on your World** 

Sincerely,

Prissy